Hi miltswifey,
I know that high iron is bad, but low HB is worse!
You should never let your HB go down below 9 or 10. Besides, your SF is 2600 and your talking to a dude with a SF of 8500
Try to work hard on your chelation and keep your Hb in check to avoid such complications like bone deformation etc. I know the time has passed for you now, but all that could have been avoided.
As far as reconstruction is concerned, I personally think that working on the head could be quite risky and should be avoided.
Don't feel bad about how you look. I've always and still do look like a child and never let anyone intimidate me. I just ignore all those nasty comments.
Take care, Peace!