A brief explanation of the thalassemias is in order.
There are two beta hemoglobin genes and four alpha hemoglobin genes. In thalassemia, one or more of these genes is mutated or deleted. In beta thal if one gene is mutated the condition is thal minor, also known as carrier or trait. When two genes are mutated, the result is thal major or sometimes intermedia, depending on the type and size of the mutation, along with some other genetic factors. In alpha thal, there are four possibilities. Usually with alpha thal, the genes are totally deleted but occasionally mutated. When one gene is deleted it is silent carrier state. When two genes are deleted it is alpha thalassemia trait. When three genes are deleted, it is called hemoglobin H disease. Symptoms can vary widely, and sometimes patients will require transfusions. Four gene alpha normally results in the death of the fetus during pregnancy or at birth, as no useful hemoglobin is produced.
Your wife has been diagnosed as having alpha thal trait. This means two alpha genes are deleted. her Hb is borderline normal, so it is assumed it is trait and not HbH disease. DNA testing might possibly give a more precise diagnosis. I would agree from the blood tests that she does have trait, but it does not appear that anything more serious is at work, as her Hb is 11, and as you said, she has no health issues.
Your readings are quite interesting for a beta minor. Your Hb and red cell count are both high, which is unusual in beta minor. However, your low mcv and high amount of HbA2 indicates beta minor status. I am a bit concerned as to the source of your high ferritin levels. Have you ever had iron supplements? If not, then you have excess iron absorption from your diet and some alterations to your diet may be in order, such as drinking tea with every meal, as it inhibits iron absorption. Your current ferritin level is not yet dangerous but if it is due to excess iron absorption, it could pose a long term problem. Whatever you do, do not take iron supplements. And the same advice applies to your wife.
The only way to completely understand your thal traits would be do undergo DNA testing. From the results of your blood tests it does seem that your children would not be more than minors, but a DNA test could offer further assurance.