Sigh. I have read these posts a dozen times trying to find any ridicule or sarcasm and have found none. Asim's display pic was one of the most recognized symbols of thalassemia in the world and I am sorry he felt pressured to remove it. I doubt the UK thalassemia society would be so quick to remove this pic from their main page.
Thal is tough and the patients are the ones who have to live with it each day of their life. Imagine being under 5 feet tall and weighing 90 pounds and having a body that just can't tolerate more than one unit of blood at a time, as many of my Maldivian friends experience in life. Weekly transfusions are often required and the feeling of being "tied for life" is very real for them. As Shilpa as said in words that cannot make it any clearer to me, "a thal never knows what it is to live a single day not being a thal." Until you can walk a mile in their shoes, please try to understand the reality that thal is for those who live every single day of their life as transfusion-dependent, iron-chelating individuals, with a host of health issues. I have spent years talking with thals all over the world so that I can better empathize with their lives but I cannot put myself in their shoes and feel we should always do our best to accept how they feel, without criticism.
I also understand that there are communication barriers here with all the different languages that they speak and I hope all will try to understand that some terms and characterizations may be used that inadvertently offend another. Please realize that there is not usually a bad intent.
Hope, I understand the proverb, but it does infer that some of our members are acting as scavenging flies, and I am absolutely sure that it is not what you intended to infer. You are a very good mom who is trying very hard to do the best for your child and I hope we can help you find the constant strength to deal with the harsh realities of thal. I am hoping we can get someone from the UK thal society to give their perspective on why this pic is used on their main page.
Everyone, please give the benefit of the doubt when interpreting what you read here. I don't see any ill intent in a single post in this thread and am sure none has been intended. And furthermore, I feel that it has distracted people from the fact that Asim is facing some serious issues and can use our support.