Dear Manal,
First of all you are doing an excellent job with your son - he is on a great program and he looks great. Take your time to decide what is best for him. Whether you decide that transfusing him during his growing years, giving him hydroxy etc for the time being is a good idea - just make sure you factor in everything For example, transfusions may mean overall well being, more energy and growth, development - but it also means a big lifestyle change for you and your son - including full days at the hospital and also chelation. My son does not complain about tx and chelation because he doesn't know any other way of living.
After gaining complete knowledge and consulting with others, you may think to try one transfusion and see how it goes. You will see if the difference it makes in your child is worthwhile to continue. Again, because the decision was so black and white for me in which I had to transfuse my son - I don't know myself what I would chose to do if I were in your shoes. I know that Dr. Vichinsky spoke at great length about increasing hg levels in intermedia patients - he spoke of this in the context of children who do not tolerate blood transfusions saying that he has found ways to "have them make their own blood" - but he said that he would discuss this with us further when my son's iron levels were better controlled and his antibodies were taken care of.
These are some of the reasons I would like to see you in NY next year. Don't worry Manal, your son is doing great and whatever decisions you make will only make his health better,
Take care,
Sharmin