Manal,
From my understanding, the cross match process involves testing the recipients blood with a number of antigens and known irritants to determine which antigens the blood reacts with. The donor blood is then tested for these antigens, and the compatible donor will, along with being a blood type match for the recipient, will not have have the antigens that the the recipient blood sample reacted with. This is the common procedure used before blood transfusions and generally works very well.
Children who receive multiple transfusions may over time develop sensitivity to certain antigens in foreign blood, and may begin have reactions to them or developing antibodies to antigens in foreign blood.
Genotype testing entails testing to genetically find what antigens the recipient actually has, and also to determine the antigens which are absent. This information is then used during the crossmatch process, thereby the donor and recipient are more closely matched on many levels. This reduces the likelihood of reactions and antibody related hemolysis. The recipient's body is likely to recognize the donor blood as it's own - because it is so closely matched. This can also make finding a match much easier, because the blood bank will already know which antigens that the recipient has - therefore they do not need to be tested for in finding suitable donor blood.
I think that this is a bit of an oversimplification - and perhaps a little incomplete - perhaps Andy can add to it.
I believe that my son would have been much less likely to develop the antibodies he did if we had taken this step beforehand.
I urge everyone to please find out where their child's blood sample can be sent to have these tests done. It is possible for doctors to send blood samples to other countries. My son's blood is being tested in Toronto for genotyping.
Please see this thread for more information about genotype testing:
http://www.thalassemiapatientsandfriends.com/index.php?topic=1660.0;highlight=genotype+testing+sharminSharmin