Hi Dave,
I feel this site will be wonderful for your girlfriend's daughter. I wish I would have had access to such great information and support when I was growing up. I am 55, and have thal intermedia. I did not get the medical help I needed until late in life because the doctors I saw did not know much about intermedia. I did OK growing up, but was sick often and struggled with pain and energy levels. I didn't find out I had thalassemia until I was in my early twenties.
I had my spleen out about 12 years ago because it wasn't working. It was 19 cm and I was short of breath if I walked 5 feet across a room. I couldn't work and had terrible flu symptoms and would have to go to the emergency room often. My hemoglobin levels were in the 6 -7 range and I had no energy and looked yellow. It wasn't until I got advice, and went to a thal center in Oakland CA, that I finally got my spleen out. They couldn't do laproscopic surgery because of the size of my spleen. I felt much better after it was out, but still had to start regular transfusions 8 years later, and should have started them years earlier. I started getting chronically sick with infections and was not able to work. Transfusions helped that tremendously. I had to have my gall bladder out also, which is typical for thal.
In my case, I was more able to tolerate having intermedia when I was younger. As I got older, symptoms got worse - especially when I was in my twenties. I was doing a lot then which didn't help - finishing college, starting a teaching job, playing in a band. Doctors where I lived didn't have any experience with thal. Even going to the Mayo Clinic back then wasn't much help. I think going to the thal clinic in Boston is the best thing you can do. I started getting the care I needed when I went to the thal clinic in Oakland CA. It really helps to see specialists when you have this disease.
I have had a really great life, have adopted 2 children who are now teenagers, have taught school for 29 years, and have played in bands on and off for years. I also have had lots of medical issues to deal with, and have had to use medical leave from my job at different times. Luckily this has worked out OK. If you stay on top of your medical issues by seeing specialists at a thalassemia center, eat healthy, get rest when you need it (I spend lots of time resting), keep your spirit strong, and have good family and friends for support, then you can do fairly well with intermedia - at least I have, though I can't speak for everyone. I'm not saying it has been easy, I have had some really low times, but who doesn't in life?
I was so happy to find this site; I had never met or talked to anyone else with thal before, and I felt so relieved to hear what others had to say. I no longer felt alienated and alone. I would be glad to talk to this young girl through e-mail or on the phone at any time if she wanted to do that. Otherwise, good luck to you all! Jean :wave