Hi Allie,
Regarding your own prior blood work, there are two possibilities why nothing has ever been noticed in your tests. If you are a beta minor, at some point in a CBC result, you would have seen a low MCV and MCH and also physical characteristics of the red blood cells, such as microcytosis or hypochromia. If this has never been noted, it is unlikely that you carry beta. However, the father could be the beta carrier. If alpha thal is involved it is highly unlikely to be noticed in any blood work as an adult. So, if this is thalassemia trait, either the father is the beta minor or one or both parents are alpha thal carriers.
I do not believe that MTHFR will affect the MCV and MCH levels, so I don't think it is responsible for the blood work results, but whether or not it is affecting her health is beyond my scope of knowledge. I will say that it is possible that the platelet readings are incorrect because if she does have folic acid deficiency, the abnormal blood cells may be mistaken as platelets in the tests. I find platelet tests to be prone to error when it comes to anything that affects the shape and appearance of RBCs, so I don't often put much stock in the platelet test unless the same high readings are seen over several tests.
If a newborn electrophoresis was done after birth, Hb Bart should have been detected if alpha is present. However, once again this can be missed by inexperienced lab technicians who don't understand all the possibilities in the test results. Sometimes the hemoglobin variants are simply missed because the electrophoresis is not done properly. Alpha is best caught when it is actively being sought. The new electrophoresis results should clear up the thal aspect. If the HbA2 is elevated above 3 and there is a testable amount of HbF, beta minor will be the likely diagnosis. If HbA2 is normal and there is no HbF, then alpha will have to be investigated. This may take a DNA analysis to properly diagnose. One note. Her remarkable growth is not typical for any type of thalassemia. I don't have any explanation for her growth other than it may be the result of your concentration on a nutritious diet, but it does raise the possibility that thalassemia is not involved at all.
I think that waiting until the test results are available is all that can be done right now.