Dear Chicagobaby,
Welcome to our site. My 16 year old son was diagnosed with thalassemia major at age 3 months. He is also beta zero. I remember the day that he was diagnoses very clearly, and I remember the confusion, uncertainty in the days and months that followed.
I am pleased however to let you know that with regular maintenance with transfusions and chelation, children having thalassemia cannot be distinguished from other children. Thalassemia children and adults that I know are healthy, productive and athletic people and they manage thalassemia very well. If you maintain your child with proper transfusions (keeping hemoglobin at 10 or above) and iron below 600 your daughter will also grow up to be healthy.
With new cures on the horizon, such as gene therapy there is a chance that your daughter will be cured in the near future. There is much to be positive about.
My best,
Sharmin