I'll try to answer the questions.
1) The low Hb of thal minor is due to the lower production of beta globin. One of the two beta globin genes either under produces or does not produce at all, so there is a deficit of beta globin to combine with alpha globin to make hemoglobin. The red blood cells that have a deficit of hemoglobin become victims of hemolysis, but the lack of beta globin is the cause. These are the red blood cells that are seen as small and pale in blood tests. Lack of iron has nothing to do with this. It is possible for thal minors to also be iron deficient, and this percentage is probably similar to what is found in the general population, but iron will have no effect on the anemia of thal minor. Iron should only be taken by minors after a full iron panel of tests determines deficiency.
2) How do you know you don't absorb iron from food? Have you had an iron panel that shows deficiency? The anemia of thal minor cannot be helped by iron. L-methylfolate is a far better choice for trying to raise your Hb. It is not unusual for thal minors to take 5 mg or more daily. Folate is needed to build red blood cells, and unless you have a coinciding iron deficiency, you already have enough iron and more iron will only cause health problems in the long term.
3) In addition tryng to raise your Hb through folate and wheatgrass, get your vitamin D tested. Deficiency is common and low D really exacerbates the problems of thal minor. Find out your level, and do not accept a minimal level as good enough. It must be over 30 to even feel human, and a goal of at least 50 is good for thals. I am not thal, but vitamin D has done amazing things for my health and energy level, and most importantly, has freed me from winter depression and vastly improved my immune system. I take at least 5000 IU daily.
4) Oxidation is a big and under appreciated issue of thal minors. The higher turnover of red blood cells along with the tetramers caused by the excess alpha globin, cause a high amount of oxidation in the body and antioxidants are highly recommended. Natural vitamin E is my favorite, but a diet high in antioxidants, along with antioxidant supplements can be of great help to counter the oxidative damage present in thals.
The one thing that could easily cause low iron is mentioned after your questions. A heavy cycle can drain your iron stores. If iron studies do show low iron, one form that works very well is called iron water and you can find it under the name, Spatone. It is water that naturally has a high iron content. It gets very good reviews for both tolerance and absorption.
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