Difficult news

Unfortunately, we just received word that our baby is a thal major.

Im not sure where we stand....but I hope I have the strength to figure it out. My husband would like to continue the pregnancy. He cannot imagine giving this up.  He looks at our son and sees a healthy happy boy that we cannot live without.

I also cannot figure out what is right and what is wrong. I could not picture life without my son. If I would have don't this to him I would have lost a chance to know him. I couldn't imagine.

I don't know if I will be able to manage this mentally and emotionally. I am broken at this moment and hope to collect myself and figure this out. If anyone has any other advice on how life would be with two thal majors please respond. I have read the topic put up by supergirl however, any other advice or wisdom would be truly appreciated.

1st I'm sorry to hear the not so good news.

I'm thal int. And I'll tell you the first 10+ years of my life was hell. I would not want to put a baby through what I went through. 

My wife & I went to a genealogist to find out the chances of our children having thal and w/ our 1st child we were told a very low risk but each child after would have a higher chance.  My doc just told me last month that any other children we have will have the same low chance as our first.  But our son is now 11 and I'm not sure how much longer I'll be around so as much as I'd like to try for a lil girl I'm still not sure about doing it.

I hope the best for you & your family.

Cari,

I know that this is very difficult for you and your husband. I also find that every time I start to type something, I delete it because I feel like I'm arguing with myself about what would be right to do. Please know that there are many of us here whose hearts feel for you and who will pray for guidance for you, even if we don't know what to say.

Cari, my heart breaks for you.  I am so, so sad this happen to you. It is in your and your husband hands and no one else. I suggest you talk with the mothers on board and maybe some one who sails in the same boat. Do know that I think about you and that you are not alone. 
<3

Cari,

Honey i hope you know that whatever decision you make we are here for you,no judgement,and what decision to make,that only you or your husband can think,its breaking my heart,i wish i could do something for you .but all i can do is be here for you.

Zaini.

Hi everyone, after a lot of thinking, researching and speaking with other families with two children with thal, we have made our decision. We don't know if what we r doing will be right...or easy but our hearts and minds are made and we are at peace.

We are having another thal baby.
 
A mother of two adopted thals and 11 children total - gave me a quote from a famous athlete which I thought was truly amazing. "a bad attitude is the only real disability"

Some may feel that we are cruel for going through with this..or even crazy. I don't know what to say to those things except I am going with my heart and hearing the wisdom of others in more severe situations. It could always be worse.

Thank u all for your support always. I know we will need it even more so now...we r blessed to have u guys.

 

You have made the best decision for your family - and Ari and Ari's little sibling are very lucky to have your for parents.

We will be here for you every step of the way. 

Much love   

Sharmin

God bless you, your family and that tiny growing life you are carrying.

Lots of love....

Cari
I am happy that you feel comfortable and peaceful. May God bless you and your family
Manal

Loads of love Cari ...
The love and strength is already there....and rest everything will follow...   

 
SK

Our love and support is always with you,Cari....

Our love and support is always with you,Cari....

Indeed <3

You are my super hero  need i say more .

Zaini.

Glad to know you're at peace and had the decision...
It won't be easy, but they'll have each other to ease their situation later on...and they'll always have a mom who cheers and fights for them.

 

Nat