Kayte,
Are you hoping to adopt a little boy from China? Have you already seen his file?
We have one son adopted from China at age 3 (now 6 1/2) with beta thal major/transfused every 21 days.
We are in process to adopt a 19 month old little girl, likely also with beta thal major.
I have several friends (online, adoptive community) who have 2 kids with thal major, or are in process of getting their 2nd.
I posted a blog post about our experience and answers to many questions:
www.choosingthalassemia.blogspot.comTransfusions are hundreds, not thousands. The annual MRI is thousands (with anesthesia) but covered by our insurance 100%.
I also want to say that it's only March and we have met our deductible and out of pocket max already for this year and now our insurance pays 100%. With 2 kids with thal we will meet our FAMILY deductible and out of pocket max very quickly.
Exjade is pricey. Call your insurance and ask how much Exjade 500 mg will cost you. It's a $40 copay for us (but I see the market price of $2000 on the invoice). Novartis and the specialty pharmacy you are assigned can help you get ScriptAssist (not based on income) to cover $100 per month. So that's right...we pay NOTHING each month. When we had a different insurance the copay was $120, so we paid $20 per month with the ScriptAssist.
There is not pain from thal. And during the transfusions once the line is in, your child can do most anything (nap, eat, play, watch a movie, do artwork).
Hardest part? Having to advocate all the time for the best care, for compliance with the 2012 standards, keeping up on things like that.
Yes, he goes to school! He misses 1/2 day of school every 3 weeks for a transfusion. This year that has often worked out over a vacation. He LOVES "new blood" days. Our best days. 1:1 time. Great nurses. Chocolate pudding (his highlight!)
No one would EVER know my son has thal. HE IS A TYPICAL 6 1/2 YEAR OLD IN EVERY WAY. We have a biological 6 1/2 year old without thal. They have the same energy levels. Sometimes our son will get a headache right before he's due, but if we transfuse every 21 days he's usually around a hemoglobin of 10 and doesn't get a headache.
We do have a group for families who are adopting a child with thal. You are welcome to join.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/adoptingthalassemiaAnd we have a private Facebook page if you end up submitting a Letter of Intent to adopt a specific child with thal.
Nicole